Cancer-what can I do for my friend and myself?

Send her cards often and include a message. Make a donation to the american cancer society in her name. Offer to go over to her house and just sit with her for a couple hours. If she needs someone with her at all times due to being weak offer to do that for her parents so they can get out and have some time alone or to do some shopping etc. Make a collage out of pictures of the two of you to hang in her room or somewhere that she will see it often. Also for your own piece of mind do a lot of searching on the web for information and treatments for this cancer so that you have a good idea of what is going on and what to expect. As for your grades in school.........the best thing you can do is study hard and get your grades back up as your friend would not want you to let your grades suffer. Keep your grades up for her sake so she has a best friend she can be proud of. Good Luck.

Another idea is check out your local hospital for support groups. Am very sorry about your friend http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif
B-Jean

MLGable had some very good ideas as for things to do for your friend. As someone who has experienced this type of situation many times, I can tell you that I know how hard it is. I would suggest writing a long letter letting her know how much she means to you. This may really be good for her. She certainly needs to feel as much love as possible during this time. Also, I know it's hard to keep your grades up. You should look in to talking with someone...maybe a school counselor...about these problems. They could probably offer advice. I pray that you and your friend will both get through this.

I don’t trust chemotherapy. The medical system makes a fortune from chemotherapy. I read on a web sight that a group of people did a survey on doctors who specialized in chemotherapy. They were asked if they would ever do chemotherapy if they got cancer. The doctors answered no, and said that the only reason why they do it to patients is because it’s hospital procedure. The web sight also said that more people die of chemotherapy than of cancer. Even though I don’t know the answer to your problem, the web sight said that the best thing to do if one gets cancer is to build his / her immune system (and there are many natural forms of medication that can help eliminate cancer). The only reason why the medical system doesn’t use herbs is because they can’t make a profit from natural medication. Personally, if I ever got cancer I would move to Japan or China and find a really good Japanese or Chinese doctor (the cancer rate in Japan is one fourth the cancer rate in America, and the life expectancy in Japan is over 100 years). I would definitely not deal with the corrupted medical system in the U.S (too many complications, frustrations, rules and regulations, outlawed natural forms of medication, etc...). Well I hope your friend gets better, and be sure to pray (GOD and Jesus do answer prayers).

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[This message has been edited by Bettawrekonize1 (edited 10-16-2002).]

Hello http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wave.gif

I am deeply sorry to hear of your friend's health
situation.

Situations like this really are a live and learn thing.... you can never really be prepared for such a thing. And she is so young.

My mother is on chemo, incidentally she and I do not really talk at her request. The drugs made her very depressed, and there wasn't anything my sister and I could do that was enough.

My mother, though, had some underlying psychological conditions.

I think it depends upon the circumstances and the personality of your friend.

When I was really ill, all I wanted to do was sleep, be hugged and have icecream at my disposal all of the time.

Sometimes the smallest comforts are the biggest.

Think of her favorite things..... to eat, to do, to watch, to talk about.

Try to keep her smiling as much as possible, without
being insensative or minimalizing what she is going through....

If she wants to talk about it she will.

And I think that maybe since this is a first for you AND her, you may be able to just ask her from time to time what she needs or wants.

Love is always the best thing. Any thing you can do to express that will be perfect.

Also, be sure to set up your own support system because tremendous things can happen to you emotionally without you even realizing it.

Counceling may not be a bad idea, or a support group.

Best wishes..... and I will send much universal energy
your way out there in California. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

Blue

oh hun,
I am so sorry my uncle died of pancreatic cancer and it is such a difficult thing to go through......
just know this sweetie she is on my prayer list and I will say a special prayer to her tonight.. you should send her messages and cards.... may god be with you may god be with all of you..
((((((Hugs))))))
take care,Renee'