I'm in love with one of my good friends girlfriend!

Make sure you are gonna take care of her well. The thing is you gotta know if you really like her. Is it love or sympathy? Ask yourself and make the move. Talk to her. Ask he what she feels about her boyfriend. And give her time to think about you and the feeling she has for you.

Remember, if you two start to go out and if she is not going to be happy with you.....she is gonna blame you for all that happen. So make sure and talk to her, above all.

You must be a nice dude to do that, I would assume.
Good luck.

There are 9 billion people on the planet, half of them woman. I'm sure you can find another girl instead of stealing your friends girl.....That's not very nice of you. You will lose 2 friends this way.

OK Pal - Here I go. The board antagonist shall now speak.......

Pal. Surely you gotta see what is happening here. Women. I swear. They are like primates in the forest swinging on a vine. They can't let go of one vine until they have another in their hand! See?

You are the next available vine. Hey - If you can't fight your hormones and the urge is strong then by all means go ahead and obey your biology. I guess we really have no choice anyway.

Looks like the makings of a messey deal to the old man here.

If you are good at treating women well then brother, you need to demonstrate that and you will be covered up. Give women what they really want, and what most women really deserve, which is to be treated well. Kindness, respect, concern. Worship the ground they walk on, treat them like a queen and LISTEN to what they have to say. There will cover you up and you can keep your friend to boot.
Good luck

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Those who dispense tough love to their children now should be prepared to receive same back from them in 30 years.

bad idea.. I know its probably hard seeing him treat her bad but don't go after her that is wrong believe me...there are other girls out there that is one line you never cross..
Renee'

Wow, what a tough situation....Let's see, I was one of those girls in a relationship that I was treated like crap, physically abused and such, another who had liked me for a very long time and I had been attracted to also, asked me out.....we got married four months later and had three children.......my point is, if your friend is treating this girl like crap and you and she spend most of your time together, hmmmmm well the best lovers are the ones who are friends first. I dont think you are going after her like a dog in heat, you sound as if you truly care and she is unhappy but maybe her self esteem is low and she feels she cannot get out. He is not being cool by fighting with her in front of you, that is disrespectful to both of you. Is he really a friend to you? why do you hang out? I honestly think that you and she can be mature about this and talk about it, seems you have plenty of time to......and only from what you say, it seems as if he is only in a relationship with her because he has nothing better to do and it is better to be in a bad relationship than none at all, so some think... If you keep this inside, it will eat you alive, talk to her and is he really THAT good of a friend if you lose him over this? Unfortunately things like this happen, but I wish the best of luck.....go with your heart.

A dog really must have eaten that guys brains. Women clinging to vines, what a bunch of crap. Emega, whatever you wind up doing, I hope you don't listen to people who make idiotic generalizations about women.

dude, drink some beers with her, if it goes well sleep with her... I promise you'll both be over it after that. then have a sit down talk with both of them, tell him sorry and that it was just an crush, cause she's soo beautiful, and how could anyone resist her? and that you're over it now, and let's not make a big deal of this... everyone wins, and it's one of lifes lessons. years later you'll look back and laugh about it.

I am sorry but that is the worst advice I have ever heard she is his best friends girlfriend I don't care if he does treat her bad I am sorry for her but that is a line you don't cross sleep with her omg men I am not surprised!!!!!!
Renee'

I think that sometimes you start liking your best friend's partner- guy or girl- depending on the situation- not so much because you genuinely like that person but because there is already an indirect link or bond between the two of you- that being the friend- so I think that it becomes much easier to fall for that person than it would be if they were a total stranger. It may also stem from uncounscious competititive feelings you feel with your friend- in your case you said your friend treats her like crap- so you think you could do a much better job at treating her like a lady- is that competiton or genuine feelings? Friends often compete with each other in many aspects, so you really need to ask yourself where you lie. I think you have to make sure that you like this girl for all the right reasons. Don't fall into the trap of "thinking" you have feelings for this girl and then find out later that you don't- and in the process wind up losing two good friends.

[This message has been edited by sherrie (edited 10-21-2002).]