i havge been getting to know this new friend. she goes to my school for three blocks a day and leaves at 12:30 to go to a physciatric(sp) focus program. she has a hard past that is unbelievable to me it makes my problems seem so minor shes in this program for an ed which she is all over with, depression and suicide attempt. she has tryed to kill her self by cutting her wrist that left a scar thats almost tramatizing just to look at. she tells me stories and some of them are happy and then most of them are filled with pain. when we are together i try and do things that make her smile with still being myself. She tells me that sometimes her dad gets drunk and he did last night. she said that he doesnt get abusive but isnt him self and that he scares her the way he acts... is there anything i can do to help? i cant really come over after school because she has that program until 5 pm so we hang out on the weekends.. and when she tells me this stuff its on my mind a lot. and i dont tell ne of my friends bc highschoolers can be crazy with gossipping and the only person i have really told is my dad bc we are like best friends but he told me that i shouldnt really tell him bc its between us two.. but you know how your shocked so you want to tell someone.. doy ou have any advice on how i can get it off my mind? like would writing work and would that be knowledgable in the past i wasnt good with holding secrets and i need to learn that i someitmes need to keep my mouth shut and i do a lot now.. just not soo much
so what do you think i should do about my troublesome friend? any advice?
thanks bunches
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~*~Hannah~*~
simby
10-16-2002, 05:47 AM
hi hannah - the best thing you can do in my opinion is listen. sometimes that is what we need most.
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mfry32
10-16-2002, 12:21 PM
I agree, listening is one of the most helpful things you can give anyone.
tcb0609
10-16-2002, 04:41 PM
That's right...listening is the best thing you can do. Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on at some point in their life. Just be there for her when she needs you. As for getting it off your mind so you'll keep your mouth shut...I don't know. My friends have always come to me with their problems and once I know what's going on, it's hard for me to get it off my mind, too. I worry about them constantly, but love the fact that they feel they can come to me when needed. I have gotten used to this...maybe that's why I'm a psychology major now! I'd suggest just be there when she needs you and offer lots of hugs because people need those, too.
Pinkroses
10-17-2002, 09:30 AM
Listening to her is the best thing. Being there for her and being a good friend is all she needs.
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