hello i am gonna try this Porn and Boyfriend thing again... |
Hello I can't pull it up either. I wanted to know what you all thought of this lil story. well to cut it short:
My boyfriend got offered by his mom to make a porn site(says only to make money) Well basically he told me that and I got upset so he said so i wouldn't freak out he wouldn't do that for his mom. This was a while ago but I just want to see how you feel about it? Because I don't think freaking out is the right word. More like creating a porn site FOR MEN to look at is wrong, being a man himself he'd be looking at it too. and I don't want that to happen. like some other girls say (WHY SHOULD THEY WANT TO LOOK AT PORN WHEN THEY HAVE THE WOMEN BESIDE THEM THAT THEY EITHER SAY THEY LOVE OR WANNA BE WITH FOR THE REST THEIR LIVES) I think porn gives the men something to fantasize about ya know wishing or hoping thats what their lady looks like. But looking at porn once in a while isn't bad. My boyfriend hardly does it. He said mostly around his cousin and not even then either. I want to trust him about it. But men are pigs and I don't know why we love them. :O LISTEN: Should I tell him if he brings the porn site up again. This is what I should say: Unless I am on the websites with the other women, I'm not going to freak out. Is that a good way to make him think or what?
magee 10-17-2002, 12:46 PM Excellent idea. Casually tell him you're ok with the site, and you want to be on it. What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
Pinkroses 10-17-2002, 01:34 PM I agree with Magee. His jaw will surely drop when he hears you say that!
arcutiemogirl 10-17-2002, 02:24 PM I don't exactly want to bring it up outta no where but I do want to give him a taste of his own medicine. I want him to know that it hurts my feelings more then it freaks me out like he said it would do. What else do you think about it?
Amy42601 10-17-2002, 02:55 PM Right, I'm going to get a whalloping for this, I know, but here goes...
Looking at people, male or female, naked or otherwise is human nature. We all do it, just not all of us will admit to it. Mainly to save face and to not offend or upset our partners, but we do. I don't consider it wrong or offensive to look at porn. If that is what someone wants to do, better that than going about with a prostitute!
My husband looks at porn. It doesn't bother me because he is human and it's in his nature. Also, I am secure enough in our relationship to know that this is ALL he is doing is looking. I see nothing wrong in admiring the human body. Heck, if he STOPPED looking, I'd be worried! Call me weird, but there you go. The only thing about your post that bothered me was the fact that his MOTHER suggested it! I don't know if I read correctly, but it also sounded like she wanted to help him with it or something? Either way, I feel that is inappropriate as it's him mom, not a friend or business partner that suggested it.
Unfortunately the sex industry is very good at making people money and always has been. If your b/f wants to cash in, why not? Better that than selling drugs.
JUST MY OPINION on this.
Amy
arcutiemogirl 10-17-2002, 03:14 PM Unfortunely You musta not of read it all correctly... looking once a good time or two thats fine looking is fine... but putting it in as a business is wrong...how long have you been married? Its just like prostitution when you have girls showing off their things to men to MAKE money... anyway most women don't agree with it. Just MY OPINION. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif
ana_24 10-17-2002, 03:38 PM Does this sound like a Jerry Springer episode in the making or what?? lol... "My boyfriend's mother hires him to create porn site in which i will star.." hmm...
magee 10-17-2002, 03:45 PM It is also natural for a woman to want men to look at her and admire her. So she should go on the site. If they're both ok with it, fine. One likes to look, one likes to show. It works two ways.
FatAndDepressed 10-19-2002, 10:07 AM personally, and this is just my opinion, i think porn is totally disgusting and degrading. there is no difference in being a porn star and being a prostitute. both are having sex for money. my boyfriend has a thing with looking at porn, and it totally pisses me off. i have blocked my cable and blocked all sex sites on my computer to keep that crap out of my life. i have never figured out what is so "special" about them sites that make people feel they need to look at them. i have never agreed with porn, and i never will. what woman in her right mind wants 50 penises in her in a 24 hour period, what woman in her right mind wants 3 penises in her at once, what woman in her right mind would do half of what them women in porn shows do? i'm sorry, maybe i'm just old fashion, but i feel what happens in the bedroom should stayed behind closed doors. people are getting more rapped up in this "sex" industry, when they need to be getting more rapped up in being faithful, moral people. our world is litterly going to hell, and its us who are letting it happen. can't even watch tv with your own children anymore because everything is sex, sex, sex. its sad, it really is.
mydog8mybrain 10-19-2002, 10:32 AM Hoooooooold it. Lemmie get this right. You say yer boyfriend's MOM wants to do a porn site? She wants your b/f to help her with it? Wow. Is that sick or what?
Sounds to me like a new b/f is in order. Get rid of him and his sicko mom. Jeez.
Bruce
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Those who dispense tough love to their children now should be prepared to receive same back from them in 30 years.
newdawn 10-20-2002, 12:32 AM I had an ex husband that was addicted to porn, he cheated on me with a stripper for 6 months.. I don't feel that if guys/girls want to watch it thats there decision.. but I will tell you it hurt me when all he wanted was to look at other women...It made me feel so bad about myself..he was sick though he was a sex addict... I think that he and his mom are sick..
I don't know what she or he is thinking..
good luck on this one hun,Renee'
arcutiemogirl 10-21-2002, 10:43 PM Hey I agree with (Fatanddepressed) NO ONE NEEDS To be looking at porn and needs to keep it in the bedroom. But thats all I can say. i am just going to try my best keeping it cool until he brings it up again. Then I'll tell him that I would like to do it. See how he reacts and how it feels
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