what do you guys think?

Sounds like either
1)She is still very much in love with you but wants to keep everything at a distance so nothing gets messed up.Or ..
2)Just holding on to you for awhile until she finds something better.

I bet its #1 though.

I think that when getting back together with you started to seem like a reality, she got scared. I think she's wondering if she'll ever be able to trust you again. I think she thinks you might hurt her again. I think she's afraid of letting herself become vulnerable again.

If you're having all these problems now(apart),My gut feeling tells me You're problems are still not worked out, and you probally ought to stay at arms distance for a while longer. From my experience if you have to "make" something work, well, that's just not a good sign. I'd go slowly, and trust my gut feeling. Hope this helps, see ya, buck.

So, after reading your replies I went to see her and I told her that she was holding back on me because she was scared that I was going to hurt her again and I promised that I was not and I would act differently that I want to settle down with her and stuff. Well she told me she was seeing a guy and that she didn't tell me about it sooner because she was trying to see if she would regain her feelings for me so she can go back out with me but just recenlty she got really attached to this guy and she started liking him because he treats her good makes her his first priority. This hurts. I really do think that she didn't really wanted to hurt me that she just found someone that treated her the way I should have treated her when I met her. It hurts cause I was falling in love with this girl and I wanted to be with her and I was going to really treat her right and love her. Wow I just build so much emotion for this person just to be turned down. I respect her more now I dont blame her at all she did the right thing for herself. She seems to be happy with person and I am somewhat happy for her too. But how can I be genuinely happy for her when right now I am so miserable. Its 3 in the morning and I haven't slept yet and I work in the morning. This is so terrible. My heart is beating so fast, thought briefly about dying. I know things will get better for me but right now I feel so terrible. Its like one of the worst experiences in my life I kind of know now how she felt when she was going through hell with me. What comes around comes back around. I really didn't mean to hurt her I was just so naive. I dont know what to do. I am kind of happy that it happened cause truly I didn't think it was going to work out between the both of us but I just had to try. Probably loneliness drove me to want her back. Recently I have been on a dry spell and very lonely and I just wanted something to spark my life again. I just want to get over this. I hate feeling like this I dont remember the last time I cried the way I did tonight. I truly do know now what is getting your heart broken. I just feel so bad I feel like crying again. Nothing is going the way I planned in my life. Oh lord give me some strenght its hard. Its hard. I am sorry guys I just have to vent this is so so terrible. WOW! I think I know now how to treat a woman. Life is hard!

give me something!

I don't mean to sound unsympathetic, but, you've got your heart broke and anybody will tell you thats one of the harder things you'll face. But you've got to move on and start looking, it may take a week or it may take a year but, eventually your going to meet someone that just blows you away, and when that happens you'll be able to put her behind you, trust me. So get out there and start looking, the more people you meet, the quicker you'll find "her". good luck. buck.

absolutely true! In the back of my mind I knew something like this was going on but I didn't want to accept it I thought she still wanted me because thats what I wanted. But you know what I am getting through this I know I am better than this other guy and I know she knows but she is going out with him cause he treats her nice and stuff he is younger than her and he is inexperienced and I know its not going to last. I think that she wants to be with him cause she can control him and eventually she is going to realize that I am much better him. I know my thinking is not right but thats how feel. But its hard to accept the fact that she is having sex with someone that is not me. Its hard. I also know that what she is doing is the right thing cause if she would have chose me the relationship was not going to work there was too much resentment from both of us but I can;t still help it that I lost her. eventhough deep inside me I really dont want to be with her yet I do. cause I have a kid with her and I think that it can work but yet again I know its not cause she is really not the type of person I really want but she is so beautiful and so sexy yet I still want her cause physically she is exactly what I want my future wife to be. I am very much confused I am very shallow that goes to show you that physical attraction does not contribute to happiness that is much deeper than just looks. Anyways, I really resent the fact that I lost her to someone that I feel is less smarter and less good looking than me. and thats what really hurts I dont think I am hurting because I lost her but the fact that I lost her to someone that is much less than me. Actually I thought I was going to feel much worse but I am actually not as heart broken as I thought I was going to be. thats life. I know down the road she is going to want me back cause she was going out with him and yet she put aside her feelings for this guy to see if she can renew her feelings for me so she can decide if she wanted me back but how can she when she didn't spend time with me and she was always with him and yet when she was with me I know she was enjoying being with me but she never looked for me I guess she wanted me to do all the work but I am too proud to tell her that I would do anything to have her back I let time decide that and I know she is going to want me back down the road but I dont think I want her back.

i know how you feel, i am going through something similar, but my boyfriend and i briefly got back together, untill i discovered that he had been cheating on me for 2 years. i don't want him back, but the thought of them together makes me sick, at times i just think of them doing things together and it makes me feel terrible. i hope as time passes, i can start to forget about him and hopefully you can do the same. although, in my situation there is no contact between us, and since you two have a child together, you will have to see her. one thing i have learned is that as soon as she realizes that you are not there anymore or have started to see someone, she will want you, it happened to me.

Well, today I found out that she is going to move in with the guy and that she is also 6 week pregnant from him. Well, inside of me when she told me all of this I got a little jealous but I knew all along that I really didn't want or love her as much as I thought I did that all these feelings that I was feeling for her were because I was jealous that she had a relationship with someone and not me. Eventhough I did wanted to be with her I think it was the best thing that we didn't start a relationship. I just wanted her cause I felt lonely and I needed someone in my life. I think she made the right decision. I dont feel that depressed now I feel happy for her. I truly do. We spend about an hour talking when I took my daughter back to her today and I was telling her not to be so jealous with the guy, to try to trust him and try to control her emotions. She has a lot of emotional scars from previous relationships and I know that she really just wants to be happy. I was just being selfish and jealous and I hurted my own self eventhough she has been with this guy for a quite a while now and she was hiding it from me eventhough I knew he was in her life but I just didn't know his position in it she would tell me that he was just a friend. Why would she hide it from me? When I first told her that I wanted her back, she was happy. She said to me " now I can be happy again" and she called a few times after that but then she stopped. So since I was lonely at the time I pursued her thinking that I can have a chance with her again so I looked for her and visited her often but she kept seeing the guy. I think my aggresiveness pushed her to him even more. She has been going out with him for almost a year and she kept telling me she wanted me back and wanted to live with me and when I started feeling lonely I wanted her back too, I think she got scared she was going to get hurt again. Anyways, I respect her more as a person and I like her and we talk as friends and she told me about her relationship with her boyfriend and how he is, like if I was one of her girlfriends. It was cool. Eventhough I am a little jealous that I lost her I am happy that she is with someone else cause now I know that I lost her and I have to move on and I look forward to the future eventhough I am scared. The way she was looking at me today, it was like she was missing me already, I know she doesn't want me out of her life but I know she is thinking that she made a choice and she has to make the best out of it. I know she thinks in the back of her mind that if she could change things she would be with me but at the same time I would not have made this girl happy. I am not trying not fool myself by saying this I know it. She didn't say it but she was this guy for a year she went out with him to get over me, year later she still wanted me, we still had sex up till september while she was with this guy. I sound like if I am trying to make myself feel better by making him look worse but thats how I feel. I stil think she made the right decision by staying with him especially now that she is pregnant from him lol lol. I look forward to a good night sleep and a good future we are still friends and in my heart I will always have a place for this girl and she will always be in my life since I have a kid with her. I feel much better now.

eventhough I still can't sleep. Does your body get used to not sleeping right or I am still hurting and depressed or what? I am thinking right now of them together running off and being happy and stuff and me being lonely and depressed. I am think I am just depressed. I seriously does not feel that much for her or was I really deeply in love with her. I just hate the fact that I lost. I should have won. LOL! God knows what he does.