Balancing my emotions!

Ok... I've rewritten this like 3 times! heh To make a long story short and to save you a bunch of confusion, someone I liked 4 years ago has come back into my life and I'm wondering about how fast or slow we should take things. I only wonder this because now he lives far away from me, and I'm planning to go visit him, and I'm not sure how fast or slow we should take things. If things worked out, this would be my second long distance relationship, and I gotta say.... My first didn't go so well! I was always frustrated by the distance, I felt I needed to move quicker when I probably should of gone slower and vice versa. I found it hard to keep a balance!

So I'm curious what you all think is too fast or too slow for an LDR?

I mean, since we don't get to spend all that quality time together, cuddling while watching tv and holding hands, how quickly should we do those things? And again, since we don't get to do those things, I feel a bit of pressure to move it along and get on the boat and just do it because it'll be so long until we get another chance to! Do you understand my balance issue?

To tell you the truth, I feel pressured (not by him in ANYWAY!!!) to sleep in the same bed with him (not have sex though!), just because I want to enjoy that sort of affection with him while I can, but... Argh!

It'll be another 2 months before I get to see him, and that will give us quite a bit of time to figure this and each other out, I'd just like some outside opinions, too. I need help keeping the balance! Is it just as easy as doing what feels right?