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Here goes...
Been "friends" with a very very close family friend for almost 3 yrs now.
Fell in love with him.
Thought he loved me to but just was not ready for anything serious.
So i decided to wait all these yrs for him, in the hope he might come around.
Have been "friends" the entire time, really close and good friends, but the feelings were still there.
I recently hear that he's with a girl, nothing serious but still broke my heart. When i decided to ask him whether we still have a future together ( like we discussed in the past) he said no.
Heart was shattered.
He was shattered telling me and started crying.
Yet he tells a friend of mine that we may be together in the future.
Never been more confused!
These days its so hard to contact him coz i feel he's avoiding me but dont know why.
I wanna know him again. I miss him like hell.
He told me he needs a few weeks to let it all settle.
What does that mean?
Its not like we were dating and broke up! ( although it feels that way)
How do i have him back as my friend?
I always feel that when i call he thinks i have other intentions, even after our long talk.
I still love him......
Elle
Maybe someone better for you is out there beyond him. Get out there and make sure your prince sees you. Guys are pretty straight up, especially when they say no.
I thought I was in love with my best friend from college. We stayed friends for a decade through each others' various relationships. He met a girl that was perfect for him and then didn't need to be my friend any more. It hurt. Took a while, but I got over it. Once my heart was free, I found the best guy in the world.
He's avoiding you because you DO have other intentions: "I still love him......"
If your love is true and unconditional, let him go. The trade off is worth it.
Apologies if my message seems less than hopeful. Your message poked me in a sensitive spot, since my boyfriend still gets emails, instant messaging, and voicemail from an ex-girlfriend who still considers herself a "good friend" but barely acknowledges my existence. Since he and I have discussed my feelings on that (I think she's disrespectful of our relationship), he rarely -- but still on occasion -- talks to her, and keeps it short. Her attempts to contact him have increased recently, and I'm just waiting for the "Happy Valentine's Day" excuse to catch up, and I'll take bets against it being fond wishes for the two of us. She knows I'm moving across the country for a new job this month, and -- darn it! -- I AM suspicious of her intentions! [took a deep breath, and will now stop venting.]
Happy prayers to you and best wishes through a difficult time,
Marj
supertrooper 02-05-2004, 11:48 AM I've seen the same thing before. Growing up there was a group of us (boys and girls) that was together from about 3rd grade thru high school. From schoool and family we were all very intertwined. There was a boy and a girl that were such good friends most of us assumed that they would wind up together. They were always together and would flirt with each other. They were always there for each other, but nothing romantic ever came of it.
During a wedding reception for a couple from the group that had joined up, I asked him why they never hooked up. He replied that they had been thru so much together it would be like dating his sister. He loved her, but not in that way.
I don't know if this helps in any way, but it might give you some insight into his POV.
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