hello please help me.......
i have a long distance relationship with my b/f, i am starting to find it difficult tho becoz we only get to see each other once every 2 wks for the wkend.
everythings been going really well for the past 4 month and i think i am falling in love for the first time but i am worryed that while i like him more and more every time i see him the 2 wks i have to wait to see him again are starting to mess my head up really bad. i cnt stop thinking about him, he calls me every nite, but if he doesnt for some reason it drives me mad, i start imagining allsorts and it makes me depressed. i think i am starting to obsess over him. i feel like i am getting a bit clingy and need to control my self not to call him all the time, becoz i know this will probly drive him away. i feel like i need to constantly be reasured by him that everythings fine and feel very insecure.
the thing is i dnt know if i can handle this anymore.....
im scared that i am beginning to fall in love and the deeper it gets,the more its gona mess my head up how i cnt see him and the more hurt il get if it all goes wrong, what if he decides one day that hes sick of the traveling or even worse finds another girl closer to home? we cant aford to move in together and wnt be able to for years.
i really do like him but dont know if it for the best to end things while its still early in the relationship
if i do in time i could make myself forget him, please please help!!!!!
this is tearing me apart!! what shud i do?
day7501
02-10-2004, 07:13 PM
I know what your talking about. My now husband moved 7 states away when we were only dating for a few months. THen he went into the MArine Corps. We only saw eachother once evey few months and sometimes we couldn't talk for weeks at a time. This went on for a year and a half and then I moved 2.5 hrs away from him. Even then we saw eachother everyother weekend. As I said above he is now my husband. Things are good now but as you know it is hard. You have to trust him, and yourself. You have to trust that nomatter what happens you will get through it and be alright. You can't play the "what if" games with yourself because you will go nuts and then drive him nuts. I once heard somewhere that "you create what you fear". If you are always fearing someting will happen and don't just enjoy what you guys have then you will push him away and you guys will end or coem close to it. I have been there and gone through that. Be open with him and communicate. And don't be scared or hold yourself from falling in love with him. If you guys can get through the distance you can get through anything. This might sound corney but sometimes it is the love that gets you through hard times. Sometimes that is all you have to hang on to. It is a scary thing but it can also be great! Good luck!
fluffy-clouds
02-11-2004, 12:26 PM
thanks alot for your reply, and wow! that sounds alot harder than my situation.
im not going to end it il just have to hope every thing works out.
how on earth did u get thru some of thoses times? it must ov been so horrible!!
thanx :D
day7501
02-11-2004, 12:32 PM
thanks alot for your reply, and wow! that sounds alot harder than my situation.
im not going to end it il just have to hope every thing works out.
how on earth did u get thru some of thoses times? it must ov been so horrible!!
thanx :D
This may sound really dumb but love can conquer almost anything in my eyes, and my husbands. While my case is really rough it was also very rewarding. My husband was away because he is a Marine. He was protecting me and all the people I love. To me it is a job that somebody needs to do and I was glad to stick by him. But even if it wasn' t the case of the military like maybe your case. If he is good to you and really cares about you then that is something you don't want to give up. Good guys are hard to come by. Distance can make your relationship stonger or rip you apart. If it makes you stronger than you 2 will have a bond that no one can break.
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